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I don’t need to feel him up in front of everyone in Harvard Square to show the world he’s mine. And I sure as hell don’t need to take up THE ENTIRE FUCKING SIDEWALK because we love each other SO much that we can’t not be next to each other holding hands for even just 2 seconds, because I don’t. And I definitely don’t need my man to wrap his arms completely around me in some creepy bear hug because it’s “cute” to be so close in public- it’s not cute, it’s scary and I can’t breathe now, thank you very much. Maybe that’s just because I’m more secure than other people, but who knows. I don’t need to be smothered to know that I’m loved. I’m sorry if you do because that’s just sad. Anyway, there’s just no need to get you and your partner all riled up and ready to go in front of people. When you do that, all of us around you become voyeurs with no escape. Honestly, I never know what to do when it’s going on right in front of me. I mean, I know not to stare, but I am able to only look at my phone for so long. Do I pretend not to notice?imlive ocm

Do I applaud and cheer them on? TELL ME, INTERNET! WHAT DO ? I’m glad you’re happy (are you, though?) and think you’re in your own world, but NEWSFLASH: You’re not. There are a million people around you who don’t need to watch you and your partner’s foreplay activities. Personally, it just shows how insecure you ( or you both) are, that you need to scream “THEY ARE MINE AND YOU ARE JEALOUS, RIGHT?” So here’s my solution: Hold hands. Kiss each other. Be happy and in love. It’s a wonderful feeling and I’m happy for you.

And if you still want to get all up in everyone’s business with your love, buy a webcam and also make some money off of it from willing viewers. You can show everyone how much you “love” each other while helping others “love” themselves. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook18Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Opinion Tagged in: annoying, Dating, gross, PDA, public displays of affection Nowadays, there’s a lot more opportunity for people to live outside their native country thanks to educational grants, work-and-study programs, and work-related relocations. In fact, expats are so common today that there is now an actual significance of single expats online dating sites. However, this doesn’t mean that dating is the same for an expat as it is for an indigenous person. Namely, there are some obstacles a non-native single person has to overcome that otherwise wouldn’t exist for a local. With that in mind, here are the 5 dating challenges every single expat faces.

1. Culture-Barrier Although English is pretty much the language spoken and understood in most countries of the world, the language barrier still exists for an expat who is trying to date actively. This especially happens for individuals who are living in countries that are entirely different from their home. Take a German guy living in Japan, for instance – He’s probably going to have a hard time communicating everything to his date given that their cultures and languages have practically nothing in common! 2. Being in the Know Although expats are pretty much on the same level as locals in terms of being a part of the community they live in, this doesn’t mean that they’re keeping track of everything that’s happening around them. People who live in countries other than unique have the tendency to watch the news and stay on top things regarding their homeland. However, they are usually not that acquainted with the events in their current place of residence. That’s completely normal but it can create gaps if you’re trying to date locals. 3. Lack of Friends Not only does being an expat mean that you’re not on your home turf, but it also understands that you’re far from your friends and family. Consequently, the absence of close people can seriously impact your dating game. Now, we all know that modern dating implies that you’re supposed to introduce the person you’re seeing to your friends at some point, which means that expats are bound to have a hard time when it comes to this. 4. Staying in One Place There aren’t too many things that tie expats to one place.

Therefore, they usually come across the challenge of dating while constantly being on the move. It’s not uncommon for people to be between apartments or towns and cities but expats don’t really have to stay in one place unless their work requires them to. With that said, you can imagine how hard dating are if you’re not stationed anywhere or if you have to move every once in a while. 5.

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Stereotypes Last, but not least is probably the worst enemy of every single expat out there who is trying to stay active in the dating field – stereotypes. Whether we’re talking racial or cultural stereotypes, expats will be often looked down on because they’re “not from around here” and have opinions formed about them based on prejudice just because they’re from a different country. It can be very, very hard to overcome such things. Are you an expat yourself? Have you tried dating one? What was the biggest challenge you had to face? We’d really like to hear from you in the comment section below! Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin1 Posted in: Tips & Advice Tagged in: expat dating, single expats If you can cook for your date, she’s sure to swoon… Okay, maybe not, but, still, it’s not a bad way to hedge your bets kids. Gasp! I made a commitment!

I know, I know; don’t bother about me. I’m fine. I mean, it’s just a commitment. Right? Well, if you recall, I had a talk with my girlfriend about going out to eat and drink and dialing back the frequency with which we do that. I agreed and that was fine, after a process of maturing had taken place, of course. The consequence has that we’ve been eating in more often, thus hitting the grocery store more often and cooking more at home. That’s been really nice. However, my girlfriend isn’t exactly thrilled with my choice of gourmet Spaghetti Ohs and Top Ramen. Surely, those food selections are really only suitable if you have no money or are you have limited food options due to a recent Nuclear Fallout. In virtually any case I knew I had to be create. I knew I had to be awesome… I just didn’t know how… That is, until I decided to phone a friend. So I reached out to Roberto Cialdella, the Marketing Associate at “Cook and Date,” the brain child of Cristina Mucciardi. I’ve seen the good people at Cook and Date all over the place, on Twitter, making the rounds in different blog posts and just doing events and being in the media, in general. Yet we hadn’t connected.

My innate ability to fail at simple culinary mediocrity was pretty amazing; legendary even. Over all, I absolutely love the Concept of Cook and Date: CookandDate, all in good taste… A gastronomically enjoyable experience where you learn, eat and mingle, in a luxurious kitchen with a reputable chef and other interesting singles. I’ve seen people try to start similar operations in LA and Orange County yet I’ve not seen anyone succeed. Good food + Chef Franca Mazza instructing student on how « dinner gets done! » That Prociutto ain’t gonna slice itself! Photo Courtesy of ‘A La Di Stasio’ drinks + cooking = A fun time, I’d think. It seems Cook and Date got their “mix” right to make this a successful venture. Anyway, I asked Roberto if he could offer up a simple dish that I could make for my girlfriend that was also elegant. He did not disappoint. Roberto brought in the heavy hitter: Chef Franca Mazza to draw up the recipe for romantic, homemade bliss!

At first, I was a little intimidated by the recipe laid before, but I went to the store, bought what I needed and went to town. FIGS AND PROSCIUTTO 4 green figs, peeled 4 slices Prosciutto di Parma Mozzarella di Buffala Quality Olive oil Preheat oven to 500F. Wrap a slice of prosciutto around each fig. Place figs on baking sheet. Bake for 5 mins,or until prosciutto is slightly melted. Sprinkle with pieces of Mozzarella. Drizzle with olive oil and serve. In word: AMAZING. In more words: Amazingly and surprisingly simple to make. Ladies, if a guy busts out something like this, you owe him some “under cover” loving or parking lot petting, if you obtain me. Stay tuned, we’re going to be featuring contributions from other Chefs for their recipes of tasty love and yummy and romantic good times.

Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Date Ideas, Tips & Advice Tagged in: cooking, Date Ideas, food, romantic ideas Lately there has been a proliferation of older women dating younger men. It’s everywhere – from celebrities to everyday people. New terms (think “cougar”) have even been coined for this trend. But is it a good one? Many women will argue that men have been dating much younger women for years, and it is about time that we are able to do the same thing. And, with more and more women putting their career first in life, younger men are starting to make more and more sense. On the Prowl At a certain age, men start to want to settle down and have families.

If a woman is focused on her career (or even is simply not ready to do the same), she does not want these men. She wants someone who understands the need to just have fun.

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Enter the younger man. Or, alternatively, after a woman gets divorced, she is not ready to hop right back into a relationship. Again, enter the young stud. The younger man has many positive attributes. They are often capable of having unbridled, passionate sex for hours on end, or at least multiple times in one night. They are not looking for a commitment or to have children or to settle down.

They are fun and have better bodies and tend to be generally better looking (there are always exceptions, of course). And, the older a woman gets, the better she feels when a youthful suitor shows interest. It makes a woman feel desirable and sexy, and that is never a bad thing… Of Boys… The only problem with the younger man is that eventually their immaturity comes through. Women tend to mature more quickly than men to begin with. Add an age difference to that, and after a while a woman can start to feel more like a babysitter than a date. And, many times, simply because of their nature, women start to get attached. And, since the whole bonus of the younger man is that they do not, it can create quite a bit of friction. But, in the end, will this be a trend that dies off? Will women continue to date these young boys (if you can ever REALLY call it dating…)? Or will the status quo return? Will all of the cougars disappear, leaving only mild kittens? Or will those cougars take over the jungle, and be the only way we survive? Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading…

Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships, For Men, For Women, Opinion Tagged in: Dating Oooh!  You’re in trouble!!! Did you enter Valentine’s Day with out a plan?  Are you up the proverbial creek without a paddle?  Well, we’ve got a few articles and some offers that might just help you out!.  So please, dear reader, read on and save your skin. I’ve long thought that Cupid was a fucking asshole. Just sayin’ That said, here we go! How to have a V-day three way – A singles guide to getting “three way play.” As the link shows, it’s a guide to getting some three way play, so to speak.

  So if you’re single, or got someone special you want to experiment with then get this guide! 10 techniques to Fail at Valentine’s Day There are those of you who want don’t want to fail at Vday.  Perhaps you are prone to fits of failure. This is a good guide for you.  What if you’re that guy that’s just a jerk? You know that guy, he relishes the opportunity to stomp hearts and punches Cupid in the face regularly.  This guide serves the purposes of such a jerk as well. Creative Valentine’s Day Ideas Perhaps you’re not a jerk, like me.  Perhaps you WANT to figure out something nice to do for your special someone on Valentine’s Day.

  Here are some creative ideas for that special day to make your special someone swoon… Er something like that. Get Your Lady Something Sexy The good people at the Itsy Bitsy Bra Bar are offering the Urban Dater’s readers a special off sexy clothing for Vday. Get in  there and get something sexy for your lady… Or, um, your women’s-clothing-loving-man… Ick. Valentine’s Day!!? Oh F*ck!!! If you’re just reading this article, then shame on you good person.  You mean well, but you should probably read 10 techniques to fail at Vday, listed above. Tsk Tsk. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox!

Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Date Ideas, Dating & Relationships, Special, Tips & Advice Tagged in: guide, valentines day, vday If you look at marriage statistics today, you will find that there is a large number of marriages that end up in divorce or separation. This is normally set off by many factors, principally the fact that most people don’t think much about the institution of marriage and how it’s supposed to be handled before they get married. However, if you are thinking of getting married, you need to know of the sacrifices you will need to make in order to make it work. Some of those include: Understanding the person you are going to marry The first thing you are going to find very helpful is making sure that you understand your partner. Before you can get married, it’s always a good idea to date them for a significant period so that you can understand how they behave. This will give you a good idea of whether or not the two of you are compatible. Understanding that the little things count a lot In addition to that, you also need to keep in mind that the little things in life are the ones that are likely to matter more than everything else. For instance, simply telling your wife that you love her is something that is can have a profound effect on keeping your marriage together, something that most couples don’t do. Get rid of boredom You also need to understand that boredom can easily kill any relationship if you let it. This is why you must always try and find a way of getting rid of it. For instance, you and your partner can try and do different things each weekend instead of just staying home. For instance, going for a massage together is bound to make both of you relax and have fun, which will in turn add some spice to everything. All in all, the thing you need to remember is that a marriage is something that needs a lot of work.

You cannot afford to simply get married without considering some of the issues above, as this will only result in an increase in the chances of getting a divorce later on. By making sure that you are thorough with the above, it’s going to be much easier for you yourself to gain the most from the marriage, and also make it last much longer than most marriages today. This means that doing the above will turn out to be well worth it in the end. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Relationships, Tips & Advice Online dating is a mass opportunity and with it, comes losses and wins of equal measure. Sprinkle some crazy into that too. Date 12- When a guy says he’ll come and meet with you when he’s four hours away, take CAUTION. Also, if that doesn’t make you think twice, his emotionally-charged and psychedelic messages will: “The tiles glistened under the bathroom light. I like doing push-ups. 375. But I need to watch my weight.” As I expected, he canceled and to my sweet relief. Date 3- Location is everything. Someone picked to go ice-skating for the first date for a change.

It also helped that he just came from work and was still wearing his uniform. Extra points for extra sexiness. Date 47- Don’t tell me about your medical conditions on the first date. Yes, that includes, “I’m losing hair profusely” and “ I have to use a cane sometimes when I walk for too long.” Date 48- Online dating is also a quick way to get flings especially for the summer or weekend getaways. If you decide to fling, fling all the way! I once decided to meet a guy who clearly advertised he was in an open relationship aka polyamorous. LOADS OF FUN. No pressure and no expectations. I was doing a summer college program at the time, and we decided to play some ‘hooky’, play make-shift checkers, and go on a Grocery Giant Eagles picnic.

The most fun I’ve ever had on a date. Period. Date 15- It works in reverse too. Make sure to know head of time if the guy you’ve been gushing over is not visiting your town temporarily. This can range from 4 weeks to 2 days! I once met a guy who said he had to leave suddenly for a family emergency in Iran when he originally intended to stay in the US for at least a month. Date 9- Make sure to understand and read the things under Status/Orientation on profiles. Also, be vigilant because the terms “demisexual” “genderfluid” “open relationship” and “poly” really matter. I made the tragic mistake of dating someone for two months who I thought was perfect in every regard, too perfect, until I suddenly realized that ‘poly’ meant dating multiple people in the place of admiring multiple people. Took me half a year to get over it… Date 22- Was suppose to be. Don’t ask a girl for more pictures when she has put plenty already online. It comes off as really shallow. I blew off at least 3 guys for that same reason.

Dare I say, it’s equivalent to me asking a guy for what position he holds in company right off the bat. Date 13- You are not your possessions. I once went on a date with someone who emphasized over and over again about his successful career endeavors- the grant he won, the classy friends he gained, or the car he just bought. I felt like I was in a commercial. Show me that your value as a person is multi-faceted. Now, THAT sells. Date 25- Be wary of the location of your prospects. I didn’t have a successful date with someone, and the run-in at the bus-stop and pharmacy was not short of intense awkward.

Date 32- If you’re trying to impress a girl who’s a poet and you can’t identify who Edgar Allan Poe is, just DON’T. He tried writing me some couplets after only one date: “You were like a fairy, and it was so merry. I felt like such a fool ‘cause you made me drool.” Barf. Date 29- Coffee shop. Perfect first date choice. My go-to for online dates. Can move to lunch/dinner if successful or to a quick scheduled appointment if not so successful. Finish the coffee and get moving! Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading…

Share This Article Facebook0Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Online Dating Tagged in: first date online dating I was recently reminded of a date that I’d been on during a discussion about lazy stalkers and gay clubs. I know, it sounds like an odd conversation and certainly that is my default setting.  So, yeah, I’ve been on some weird dates.I was on a date with this girl, I’d met online.  She was nice and sweet, yet I wasn’t getting the spark.  That is, while we were talking and having a good time there just seemed to be no spark between us.  So we ate dinner, had a drink and left the restaurant.  My date suggested that we grab a drink at this one place that she’d heard about. It was a bit of a dive, but I’d been there before and I always had a good time there, so I agreed.